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My favorite Quotes

"logic will take you from A to B but hard work to achieve imagination will take you everywhere"

Vida J Forward

"Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring." Marilyn Monroe

"To live is the RAREST thing in the world. Most people exist. That is all".

Oscar Wilde.

"Having a rough morning? Place your hand over your heart. Feel that? That's called purpose. You are alive for a reason. DON'T give up". unknown

Answers to your questions

Q- Why won't my boyfriend propose after 3 years

of a happy relationship?

A- Have you ever ask him? The next time you both are all wrapped up in each others arms , I want you to look him dead in the eye and ask " why haven't you married me? and say nothing else. No matter the answer, don't blow up in flims if it's not what you want to hear. Listen, and depending on your love for him, start honoring some of his request.

A Check your guy to see what his defination of a wife is. Most times if he and his mom have a great relationship, there will be BIG similarities on what his view of a wife is. (Men don't pick wifes far from their mothers). Now check yourself. Are you more or less of the woman he loved all his life.

No Im not saying he wants to married his mom..lol

I am saying, he might want the same security he gets from his mom from the woman he calls his wife.

Q- What to do to uplift my girlfriends bad day over a fight with her spouse?

A- Take her to see a chick flick. But if you think that she might want to talk about it, take her on a walk in the park. Not only will nature help her breath and release as she talks, but it's a big, open space so she will have the freedom to get emotional, talk loud or scream if she has to.

Q- I am really beating myself over this one. What do I wear to meet my in-laws for the first time.

A- Relax. Yep, wear relax. lol hahaha!!! This is usually a hard decision for most women but my advice is: Relax, be yourself and show a lot of respect. A pair of paints or jeans with a dressy top never fails any occasion. G luck.

Q- My girlfriends husband is a little too touchy towards me. He has on several occasions hugged, held and even slapped my butt at a football game. I have told him to stop but he continues to be touchy towards me.Should I tell my girlfriend ?

A- Yikes! first of all, why are you putting up with this moron for a man disrespecting you? Yes, you should absolutely tell your friend and make sure you tell her in his presence. But I will tell you this, no woman wants the woman her husband is flirting with around so you might be taking a risk of losing your girlfriend. But it's a risk worth taking and you should tell her soon before she sees it or hears it from someone else.

Q- What's a quick fix for dry feet ?

A- When it's time for bed, damp your feet in warm water, rub Vaseline on them and wear a pair of socks. Repeat until you see results.. =)

Q- What should I do when the mather in-law won't bug off ?

A- Set up a lunch, dinner or go for a walk with your mother in-law but make sure it's an outside area that's a little private. ( This is a heavy subject to talk about so it might help if there is lots of freash air and in an open space). During the conversation, don't blame, don't pass judgemenst and don't bring up her son. Keep your husband's name as far away from this conversation as possible because this is a problem you have with her so keep it that way. Do not just talk, talk, talk. Try to be respectful but direct with what you are asking of her. If the air allows it, tell her the benifits of your request and why it's important for her to please try.. Ou, la, la.. G luck...

A fun outfit

for a relax

and casual first date

If you are going to meet his parents, I recommend a LOOK that's simple and save

A great outfit for a grown

and SEXY

Date night

Q- My six years old daughter wants us to dress alike for Halloween. What to wear and where to get it ?

A- The cat woman suit was a hit for my 7 years old niece and I two years ago. It's sold on www.target.com

Q- I take my kids out to fun placeses all the time. I spend so much time with them but my daughter don't think I spend any time with her. any suggestions?

A- It's very important that each child has his or her own special time with mommy or daddy, so I super recommend that you seperately take your children on mini dates. Some children value one-on-one time with their parents more so then in a group with their siblings.

This is what works in my family. On the weekends, when my daughter takes her naps, I leave her with her dad and take my son out for 30 mins. We will go to one of his favorite places like the book store.. I will get coffee, he will get hot chocolate and we will split a cookie.. Then we will look at maps (one of his favorite things to do) and find countries or islands we have never found before. Or what ever else he wants to do there.

Tip: Before you leave for your date, set a time span, budget and rules.

MINE looks something like this: We can stay for 30 mins, we can get a snack and what ever he likes can be played with there but gets written down in his wish book instead of bought... Date with my son is the best. I love hanging out with him. And his conversations when we are one on one, omg, hilarious!

He keeps me laughing out loud the whole date...

love him...

Q- I am a very busy but well organized stay at home mom. I get everything planned out, scheduled and done right so that my family is happy. The problem is, there is never enough time in the day for me to do anything for myself. HELP

A- The Mommy job is HARD... And as much as we love our children, being a fulltime stay at home mom is one of the hardest and most stressful jobs in the world. But I know right now most moms will say , "I wouldn't trade it for the world" . But will you trade it to save your marriage? Here is the thing,

YOU DON'T HAVE TO. Most nagging from women comes when we are stressed out and most times the stress comes from an over load of children's work.

This is how I'm managing it for now:

No matter what else is left to be done in my house, at FIVE PM, I CLOCK OUT.

I give my kids "rest time" (they don't have to sleep, they just have to be in their beds and chill) and from 5 till 6, I do ONLY me. I might use that time to take a long shower, read a magazine, get a glass of wine or catch up on housewives of Miami. Either way, I am selfish with that hour and everything I do is for my body. I don't clean, I don't prep for dinner, I don't pick up toys, I DO NOTHING FOR ANYONE ELASE BUT YOU. or me to relax and set my mind to a happy place so that when my husband gets home, i'm in a better mood.. I just started doing this and it's been working so far. "knock on wood"..lol =)

Q- The terriable TWO'S were pancakes compare to the HORRIABLE THREE'S . My son is out of control with his NOT listing and it's driving me crazy. I tried time-out, talking, taking his toys and nothing work. I don't want to pop. what else can I do?

A- OK, this is definitely one of the biggest questions among most parents.. When should parents start disciplining? And I mean real disciplining.. Like 10-15 mins long time outs, popping the bottom or sticking to what you say even if it means their feelings will be hurt... Some people say start discipline as young as a new born, some say, you don't have to, children grow into what's right and what's wrong. Well, my magic number is 2 years old..

At 2 yrs old, my son was getting the popping (not beating to released your anger). He was getting the hairy eyeball, toys taking away, long time-out times, deserts hold back, playtime with friends taken away, But after every punishment, I give him some love and explained to him why I had to give him that discipline. It's hard, it's tuff and it hurts you to have to do that to them but you have to start deciplining early. And trust me, I got a lot of hairy eyeballs and ugly talk from some of my family members but it didn't stop me and it still hasn't. Yes, my son is still "all boy" but I know one thing is for sure, he's not short on discipline and it's being proven everyday. Here's my short say on this subject" install the discipline with tuff love at an early age and let it grow with them, instead of trying to enforce discipline when they are teenagers and already have their minds made up".